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This isn’t a parent coaching article per se, but more of a life update and insight into how parent coaching restored my hope in this parenting journey, helped calm my nervous system (which was fried after covid lockdowns!) and now allows me to feel like I can be more present, more often with my children.  This is about how parent coaching gave me what I needed to start homeschooling.

I’ve always been pulled towards homeschooling but felt like I couldn’t handle it.  I had trouble staying regulated and experienced “Mom rage” on occasion.  It was, honestly, quite scary.  Scary to feel out of control and scary to feel like I couldn’t handle parenting.

I felt alone, I felt out of control at times, and I felt unsure of where to turn (therapy seemed like the logical step but I was really craving community).

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And I did find community- I joined a wisdom circle for Conscious Leaders and in it found a group of people who value personal growth and transformation as much as I do, and from there I realized that I wanted to combine my two favorite topics- parenting, and personal transformation.  I enrolled in the Jai Institute of Parenting and underwent a 7 month journey to become a certified coach.  In that first 3 months, I participated as a client, going through the curriculum not as a coach, but as a parent.

Finding community of other parents was a lifeline I didn’t know I needed.  Hearing everyone’s shared experiences, realizing I’m not alone, that we all feel a lot of the same things, made me realize just how vital community is in parenting.  We can’t all have a “tribe” to help with childcare, but we can support one another and validate each other’s experiences and feelings.

Parent Coaching and Homeschooling- what’s the connection?

 

That journey as a coaching client helped me untangle so much of what kept me in anxiety.  It taught me more empathy and compassion.  It helped me understand my children’s brain development better and my own!  I understood what was happening when I “flipped my lid”. I could go on and on but that started my journey of loving parenting again, because I stopped fearing my reactions to my children.

And now, having been coaching through coaching others I have the space and capacity to homeschool.  As I’ve held space for my clients and their emotions, I can hold that space for my children as well.  We started about a month before public school was set to go back as a trial run (I wanted to make sure it felt good for all of us).  I have had my hard days, and I coached myself through them and sought support from other coaches as needed.

There are days when I lose my temper.  And there are days when I choose connection over control.  I probably don’t have to tell you which days go more smoothly.  And the most important takeaway is that the more I prioritize connection over control, the more quickly we get over any bumps in the road and back to learning.

From Surving to Showing Up

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I am launching a new course soon called “From Surviving to Showing Up”, and I actually have been using it on myself when I find myself reverting to old patterns of control.  Because it’s easy to fall back when something as critical as a child’s education is on the line!  The fear of failing is big, as is the weight of responsibility, but I have to remember my intentions, my “why”, my purpose and my values.

The point of this article is just to share a bit of my story.  I fall back into old patterns at times just like everyone else; I just happen to have the tools to get myself back on track.  I want everyone to have these tools…that is why I am lauching several small parenting courses (each course will come with an optional affordable coaching package add-on) to support those who need it.

If you want to find out more about new mini-course “From Surviving to Showing Up”, which teaches many of the tools I use on myself, subscribe to my newsletter to get on my mailing list to be the first to hear when it launches!

You don’t have to go through this journey without support.  You don’t have to live in anxiety around your parenting.  It can not only get better, but your family can thrive.

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